How to use NLP To Stop Worrying In 3 Easy Steps

If you are ever in a situation that makes you feel uncomfortable, that makes you feel like all eyes are on you, that makes you do things you think please other people even though you have to sacrifice something for yourself or if you always jump to the conclusion that something bad is going happen no matter what, you are probably experiencing some form of anxiety and worry about what the people around you, think about you in an unhealthy way.

This type of worry will usually happen whether things are good or bad this and is caused by your perceptions being based upon false realities: The way you think things happen are based on ideas that have been created by you over time from your experiences and reactions rather than the actual reality that happened. The worrying of what others think of you can have huge knock on affects in every aspect of your life, if you let it. NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming) is a technique that can be used to overcome this worry and get you on the road back to a confident and happy person who leads their own life by their own standards. Look at these steps and follow them to help stop you taking that worry about what others think about you and use that energy to build a new confident you.

1. Submodalities

Our five senses are responsible for feeding our brains the information it needs to understand a situation, interpret it and react to it. This system means that we can tap into our memories at any time and see, feel, taste, hear and smell it to evoke either a bad or happy reaction. This is something that gives rise to anxiety as some situations, people or events can be absorbed by the brain but the image that it translates is distorted due to past experiences and the reactions to them. Adrenalin is released in the body as a coping mechanism to danger or threat, sometimes this can occur in and to everyday situations, teaching the brain and memory bank that if you are in this situation again you may be in danger. This causes adrenalin to be released again and panic can set in as the situation does not harbour this energy due to the the normality of the event.

STEP 1:

Picture a time that you felt confident, that you were happy with yourself, that you woke without dreading the day and walked down the road with your head held high. This may be hard for some people, as for millions of us we have probably worried about others and their thoughts of us for years. But, there will be a time, even if it is from your child hood. Just think about something you do that makes you happy and when you know you are not conscious about those around you.

2. Visualisation

Although this is a simple thing to do we take it for granted. Visualisation is the process of looking back into your memory bank and using the the positive images that are in it and bringing them to the forefront of your mind, evoking the emotions that come along with them.

STEP 2:

Think about your memory in step 2. Picture it in your mind, what does it look like? What colour is it? (black and white, colour) Is there sound? Who is in it? Is it looking through your eyes? Is it looking from someone else’s perspective? Where is the picture in relation to you (In front, to the right, to the left). Now take that picture and edit it in your mind, enhance every aspect of it and become conscious of the positive feelings that you feel.

3. Anchoring

Anchoring is a popular technique used in NLP. It uses emotions and the the mind to reprogram the link between the subconscious, conscious and behaviours. Anchoring uses a trigger or stimuli to evoke specific feelings and reactions in us that reteaches the brain to believe positive trains of thought rather than negative.

STEP 3:

Use the positive sensation, memories and feelings that are incurred via step 3. Think about the image and concentrate on everything it invokes in you. As the emotions grow, pinch your fore finger knuckle on your left hand with your thumb and forefinger on your right hand. Do this until the feeling begins to subside and then release the pressure. Repeat this process as often as you like as the more you do it the more the positive nature of the image and emotions will set into your subconscious.

TEST:

Think about a situation where you would ordinarily feel like you would have to please others as you worry about what they will think of you and pinch your knuckle. Become conscious of how you feel and notice how those panicked feeling and thoughts have disappeared to let in ones of confidence and higher self esteem. Practice this over and over again and start making small changes to your life that you have always wanted to do and the fear and worry of what others think of you will be a thing of the past.