How to Make Yourself Happy and Beat Anxiety

How to Make Yourself Happy and Beat Anxiety

Everyday we wake up and we can be a in a different mood and take life in a different way. But what is it that lets us lead our lives with our cups half full or our cups half empty. The age old debate of nature of nurture will come into play here but no matter what it is our characteristics and personal traits that manage how happy we are in our lives. It is taking advantage of our emotional well being that leads us to happiness. Emotional well being is to be aware of our thoughts, feelings and emotions and using them in a positive way and to get to where we want.

It makes us resilient and able to bounce back from any problems we come across and makes us focus on the greater good rather than negative things that can bury us and hold us back from doing the things we want and the things that are good for us. This sounds silly as you would think we would naturally do the things that would make us happy but it is so easy to be taken over with our busy lifestyles, habits and the routine of everyday life which we cannot seem to see past as sometimes it feels easier not to challenge yourself. But by starting to realise this and then questioning negative thought patterns you can begin to see more clearly what it is you really want, how to get it and then be happy.

If you think about what sort of emotions person you are you can begin to understand what has been holding you back until now. Are you a bottler, where you hold everything inside and never react to things around you or are you a fly off the handle sort of person where react too much to anything that goes on around you. So where do you sit on this scale? You may never really thought about it before and just thought it was part of you and that you can’t do much about it. This is partly true but it can be changed, a lot of our behaviour is learned from our childhood, but even if it is engrained in us if it learned we can learn again and change it. Think back to when you have been into certain situations and how you have been in them and this will give you an idea of what sort or person you are.

It is important to find this out because as soon as you do you can begin to realise what it is you need to do to make yourself happy or happier and stay that way. Getting angry or the time or depressed because you bottle things up means that you are not being emotionally mature and acting in a way that your emotions control you rather than you controlling them. You really don’t have to be this way and you can remain happy. If you do have anger issues it might mean seeking professional help but if not it is a case of realising how it is you act and why and starting to change those negativities into positives.

It is so important to master reading your emotions as it allows you to handle any situation and give it the right response. The ability to do this will give you the knowledge and confidence that you can be anywhere and anything can happen and you will be emotionally well equipped to deal with it and others preventing the onset of things as panic attacks. If you are more on the angry side of things, take it in stages and anytime you are in a situations that you know you are going to get angry take a step back first and breath and try and rationalise the problem first before you react. It may mean you react in the same way but after you will gain a perspective and know next time you can take more time out and continue to do this until you being to control your emotions.

Try writing down every positive word you can think of on a piece of paper and think about how it makes you feel and write this down too then on another bit of paper do the same for negative emotions. When you have done this go back to your positive list and feel the emotions it gives you and the difference between that and the negative will be huge. By doing this you can see how your mind, body and emotions are linked and how you can control them. It also enables you to separate certain emotions as people that are emotionally immature or have a low sense of well being can confuse emotions where jealously may be understood as plain anger or boredom as sadness.

So, to stay happy it really is a case of knowing what it is you need and want to feel and know how to achieve this. Just by being aware of what type of person you are can the difference between emotions can make a drastic difference to you r life and level of happiness. And once you learn this your confidence will fly, anxiety will become a thing of the past and you will get the things out of life that you have always wanted.